Somebody I care about very much has mistaken her problems with herself for problems with me.

Redirection, stopgaps, misrecognition- not that I'm one to talk, past master at all that crap. Avoiding rather than addressing, guess I'm more worried about her as my problems, however severe they might be, don't stand the remotest chance of making an appearance on my death certificate.

Anyway, we'd come up with a lovely plan to try to deal with both our problems, as I imagine you've gathered, it didn't work out too well.

So, how lovely a plan could it have been if it didn't work out, you ask?

Extremely lovely.

Pure possibility, speculative, philosophical. So sue me.